Figuring out your 20s feels like a winding road full of transitions, discoveries, and unexpected turns. But when everyone around you is partnering up, life around you starts to feel like an unending series of plus one events and double dates. And if you’re single, there’s a unique struggle: the feeling of being left behind or out of sync with your friends who are busy celebrating milestones like anniversaries and weekend dates.

It’s a reality many of us face: We watch our friends find their people and settle into their rhythms, while we grapple with the silence that comes from a lack of companionship. We might even feel like something must be missing. But is it?

The truth is, being single in your 20s is a complex blend of emotions, but there’s a kind of peace to be found here. It’s a peace that comes from learning to embrace the quiet and make friends with solitude. It’s the beauty of having a relationship with yourself, one that is often overlooked in a world obsessed with romance.

Don’t get me wrong, I will continue to read my romance novels and keep believing in love but when you’re single, you get to become your own confidant and partner. There’s an unparalleled freedom in planning your day based purely on what brings you joy; whether that means spontaneously hitting a new coffee shop or binge-watching your favorite series late into the night. Your choices are unfiltered by someone else’s expectations or needs, and there’s something quietly empowering about that.

Sure, it’s easy to feel a wave of loneliness when your friends post about candlelit dinners or weekend getaways. But solitude allows you to turn to yourself, exploring your dreams and passions without distraction. You become more attuned to who you are, what you love, and what you want from life. Beyond that, being single can be a season of self discovery. It’s your opportunity to invest in yourself; whether it’s traveling solo or finding a new hobby, the space you have without a relationship can be sacred, and when you nurture that space can bring a sense of wholeness you didn’t even know you craved.

In your 20s, this chapter of solitude can be just as meaningful as a relationship if you allow it to be. So, embrace you being single. Romanticize your life as it is. Take yourself out on dates, cultivate your friendships, and invest in becoming a person you deeply love. Because, in this season, the peace you find in solitude may become one of the greatest gifts of all.

Penned By:

Rtr. Kavisha Yapa

Co-Editor 24-25